The apocryphal writings like the Protoevangelium of James and the Gospel of Pseudo-Matthew give the background story of Joseph and Mary. Since these writings are non-canonical books, they may be true or myth. However, they help us connect the gaps in the life story of Jesus.
According to these writings, Joachim and Anne were childless for a long time. Joachim was rich and used to offer a double offering in the Temple. Childlessness was a shame and lack of blessing from God because the lineage of the family could not persist to the next generation through children. According to the old concept, one’s life continues after death through his children and the fame of his good works.
Childlessness was discouraging for Joachim based on widespread belief and his own study of the Scriptures. He went to desert and lived in a tent fasting for 40 days, seeking God’s mercy to have a child similar to one God gave to Abraham at his old age. Anne also prayed in the garden under a tree, seeking God’s intervention for a child as He gave to Sarah. Then an angel of the Lord appeared to Anne and informed her she would have a child who “will be spoken of everywhere people live.” Anne said, “As the Lord God lives, whether I give birth to either a male or a female child, I will bring it as an offering to the Lord my God and it will be a servant to him all the days of its life.” Angel also informed Joachim about the same promise. Anne gave birth to a baby girl whom they named Mary.
When Mary was three years of age, her parents presented her in the Temple for God’s service, as Anne had promised. Zachariah was in charge of training Mary in the Temple. She studied religion and scripture there. As she grew up, Mary made a vow of lifelong virginity. When she was 12 (15), she could not continue in the Temple. Children could not remain in the Temple from puberty so that they will not defile the sanctuary of the Lord. Mary’s parents might have died by that time. So, she was to be entrusted to a dependable person who would marry her while keeping her virginity.
According to the apocrypha, when Joseph was 40 years old, he married Salome (Melcha or Escha). They lived for 49 years together and had four sons and two daughters. The youngest was James the Less, also known as “the Lord’s brother.” This story helps us to understand the connection of perpetual virginity of Mary, and the siblings of Jesus mentioned in the gospels (Mk 6:3; Mt 13:55-56). “A year after his wife’s death, as the priests announced through Judea that they wished to find in the tribe of Judah a respectable man to espouse Mary, then twelve to fourteen years of age. Joseph, who was at the time ninety years old, went up to Jerusalem among the candidates; a miracle manifested the choice God had made of Joseph, and two years later the Annunciation took place” (http://www.newadvent.org/cathen/08504a.htm). Joseph’s role, though married to Mary, was to protect her life and her virginity. However, God called him also as the Redeemer’s foster father.
While the high priest was praying for a way to find a guardian for Mary, an angel of the Lord appeared and told him to gather the widowers in the area and let them bring a staff to the Temple. All the widowers, including Joseph, gave their rod to the High Priest who took them to the Temple and prayed. When he returned the staff, a dove came out of the Joseph’s rod and stood on his head. Another version of this story is that Joseph’s staff bloomed into flowers and a dove descended from heaven and landed on it. It was a divine revelation that Joseph was to take Mary as his spouse. This is the reason for the artists to depict a wooden stick with blooming flowers on the pictures and statues of Joseph.
This legend is an imitation of an event described in Numbers 17:16-26. Israelites were grumbling against Moses for having Aaron as the high priest. God instructed Moses to ask the leaders of the twelve tribes to bring their staff, along with the staff of Aaron, to the Tent of God. The next day, only Aaron’s staff flowered and produced almond fruits, proving Aaron as the God’s selected high priest.
The aged Joseph had a vow of chastity after he became a widower and Mary had a vow of virginity. She was married to Joseph not to bear children, but as a protector of her life and virginity with a covenantal relationship. However, God called him also to be the foster father of the redeemer.
Joseph became the father of Jesus, not by adoption, but by his marriage to Mary, the mother of Jesus. But unlike other stepsons, Jesus had no human father. That made Joseph’s relationship with Jesus more intimate. Besides, Joseph knew he was protecting and nurturing the God incarnate who had created him and had been protecting him.
JOSPEH, SON OF DAVID
The Angel of the Lord saluted Joseph, Mary’s husband as “son of David.” (Mt 1:20). It is an acknowledgement of the fact that Joseph was descended from the bloodline of King David. Through this, the angel prepared Joseph for the next part of the message. The Israelites were expecting a Messiah who would be a descendant of King David because of God’s covenant with him (2 Sam 7:12- 16). So, Joseph, as legal father to Jesus, also had a role in the genealogy of the Messiah.
The nomenclature “son of David” used by the angel for addressing Joseph, is not the messianic title, but only meant that God sees his ancestral connection with David, from whose line the deliverer would come. There is a difference in using “son” by the translators: capital “S” for Jesus as the “Son of David” and the lowercase “s” for Joseph as the “son of David.”
JOSEPH’S FEAR
Some fathers of the Church, like Thomas Aquinas, Bernard, Basil, and Ephraim interpret that Joseph considered divorcing Mary out of “reverential fear”. Mary had told Joseph of her vision and the message of the Angel Gabriel, and what had happened afterwards. Joseph trusted Mary’s narration and considered himself unworthy of being the husband of the mother of God and the foster father of her divine Son. So, the Angel of the Lord relieved Joseph of the fear of taking Mary home as his wife.
JOSEPH, WHY HE CONSIDERED DIVORCE MARY? (Mt 1:19)
The Bible presents Joseph as a righteous man because he was a devout observer of the Mosaic Law. He had to do justice to himself and Mary. His dilemma was that he was uncertain of the truth. Joseph could trust Mary’s credibility and consider himself unworthy of being the husband of the Saviour’s mother. So, he wanted to be free from his legal relationship with her. Since the betrothal had legal validity, he had to divorce her to free himself from his legal bond with her.
Joseph had no evidence to prove Mary’s innocence or guilt. There was no first-hand evidence to prove Mary’s guilt because no one could find a man who abused her. Joseph might have found it hard to believe Mary’s justification because pregnancy cannot happen without the sexual union of two people. Joseph knew the prophecy in Isaiah 7:14 – “Therefore, the LORD himself shall give you a sign: The virgin is with child and will bear a son and will name him Emmanuel.” But Joseph might have found it hard to believe that it would happen to his wife.
If Joseph had accused Mary of committing adultery, the Jews would have stoned her to death. It would cause great grief for her family and friends. If the Jews set Mary free for lack of evidence, it would still cause her shame. In case Mary was telling the truth, Joseph would be accountable for hurting his innocent wife. So, the only choice he had was to divorce Mary privately by writing a bill of divorce (Deut 24:1). However, he did not take this action at once; he only considered it.
JOSEPH, FOSTER FATHER OF JESUS
Joseph is not the biological father of Jesus. The Angel Gabriel told Zechariah: “Your wife Elizabeth will bear you a son” (Lk 1:13). This differed from what the Angel of the Lord said to Joseph: “She will bear a son” (Mt 1:20) implying that this son shall not be his biological child. So, Joseph had to avoid consummating his marriage with Mary.
Joseph became the father of Jesus not by a formal adoption but by his marriage to Mary, the mother of Jesus. However, unlike other stepsons, Jesus had no human father. That made Joseph’s relationship with Jesus more intimate. Besides, Joseph knew he was protecting and nurturing the God incarnate who had created him and had been protecting him.
JOSEPH NAMED JESUS
The angel gave both Mary (Lk 1:31) and Joseph (Mt 1:21) the right to name the child Jesus. However, it was Joseph who named Jesus as the angel instructed (Mt 1:25). Thus, Joseph received Jesus as his adopted son.
According to the concept of the time, to name a child was to claim the child as one’s own. The fatherhood of Jesus belongs to God the Father, who assigned the name Jesus to His son. God asked Joseph and Mary to use that name at the time of Jesus’ circumcision.
JOSEPH, SILENCE OF
Joseph is a silent actor in the Bible. We do not hear him speak. He did not say a word to the angel, because the angel spoke to him in a dream. When Joseph and Mary, after a tiresome search, found the Child Jesus in the Temple, Luke in his gospel narrative did not record anything having been said by Joseph. It was Mary who spoke to Jesus. Joseph probably felt unworthy of questioning the Son of God.
JOSEPH’S DEATH
Joseph did not get the honour of the ‘father of the Messiah’ in his lifetime because Jesus was hardly known before Joseph’s death. However, he would have had the special privilege of dying in the very arms of the Messiah and Mary. Let us ask for the intercession of Joseph for a similarly blessed death.
JOSEPH, COMPARISON WITH OLD TESTAMENT JOSEPH
Joseph, the husband of Mary, resembles Joseph of the Old Testament. He, too, was a chaste and righteous man. The Bible presents his moral integrity in Genesis 39, where he spurned the sexual advances of Potiphar’s wife even though he knew she could give him hell for not yielding to her.
Joseph of the Old Testament could well have taken revenge on his brothers, or at least put them to public shame when they came before him in Egypt looking for food. Instead, he treated them well and consoled them, “You intended to do me harm, but God intended to turn it to good to bring about what is happening today – the survival of numerous people. So have no fear! I will provide for you and your little ones” (Gen 50:20-21). Joseph in the New Testament is also a favourite son of God the Father. Having inherited the holiness and righteousness of his forefathers, especially Joseph of the Old Testament, he now felt urged to deal honourably with Mary.
Joseph, the eleventh son of Jacob in the Old Testament, and Joseph, the husband of Mary in the New Testament, have similarities.
1. Both Josephs were from the lineage of Abraham, the father of faith.
2. Joseph of the Old Testament was the favorite son of Jacob, his father. Joseph, the husband of Mary, was the favorite son of God.
3. Both Josephs were dreamers. Joseph, the husband of Mary, had four dreams with messages from the Angel of the Lord (Mt 1:19-25; 2:13; 2:19-20; 2:22).
4. Both Josephs were chaste and righteous men. The Bible presents the moral integrity of the first Joseph in Genesis chapter 39, where he overcame sexual seduction from Potiphar’s wife even though he knew she would give him misery for not yielding to her.
5. Both had occasion to put their family to shame but did not. Joseph of the Old Testament could take revenge on his brothers, or at least put them to public shame when they came in front of him in Egypt searching for food. Instead, he treated them well and consoled them, “You intended to do me harm, but God intended to turn it to good to bring about what is happening today – the survival of numerous people. So have no fear! I will provide for you and your little ones” (Gen 50:20-21). Joseph in the New Testament is also a favorite son of God the Father. He inherited the holiness and righteousness of his forefathers, especially Joseph of the Old Testament, who also wanted to deal honorably with Mary.
6. Both Josephs protected their family.
JOSEPH, LESSONS FROM
Joseph of the Old Testament and the foster father of Jesus were righteous people. God chose them to protect their families. However, they had to face hardships in life. Let us learn from the lives of these holy men to be non-judgmental and righteous in our dealings with others.
Like Joseph, who was non-judgmental in his approach towards Mary, let us also adopt the same approach to others (Mt 7:1-6). Even if we do not agree with the views of others, let us be tolerant of them and leave judgement to God. “There is only one lawgiver and one judge who has the power to save or condemn. Then, who are you to judge your neighbour?” (Jas 4:12)
Joseph was patient in correcting his misconception of and with Mary. Though Joseph was considering a private divorce, he took time to proceed with its implementation. An immediate reaction from Joseph could have made Mary’s life miserable, he himself missing out on his vocation as foster father of the Messiah. Timely action is necessary in an emergency. However, when it is a question of a conflict within oneself or concerning others, patience for a while with trust in God will help us reach better solutions. Reasonable forbearance can be beneficial to securing help from God or from others to resolve issues.